言者無意，聽者有心

言者无意，听者有心
yánzhěwúyì,tīngzhěyǒuxīn
to take a casual remark to heart (idiom)

CEDICT

Entry Composition

1 言 yán
  1. words
  2. speech
  3. to say
  4. to talk
2 者 zhě
  1. (after a verb or adjective) one who (is) ...
  2. (after a noun) person involved in ...
  3. -er
  4. -ist
  5. (used after a number or 後 hòu or 前 qián to refer to sth mentioned previously)
  6. (used after a term, to mark a pause before defining the term)
  7. (old) (used at the end of a command)
  8. (old) this
3 無意 wúyì
  1. inadvertent
  2. accidental
  3. to have no intention of (doing sth)
4 聽者 tīngzhě
  1. listener
  2. member of audience
5 有心 yǒuxīn
  1. to have a mind to
  2. to intend to
  3. deliberately
  4. considerate